The rule says that while she may be a great sexual partner and be happy & joyous with you, she won't leave her husband for you.
More often than not, the relationship will lose its steam when the sex gets repetitive and boring and she will move on to someone else (or return to being faithful to her husband).
More than that, I learned to actively seek the satiation of my own appetites.
To face the truth of my own cravings, and to make the fulfillment of them manifest in the world -- even just to speak to them, to call them by their name.
"We can, um, go grab a bottle of wine or something? It's a concession they're willing to make, but I can tell they both feel a little uneasy, the way their eyes keep meeting, trying not to meet. Adults, like, take ownership of their wants, right? A week prior, Ben and I met at a café in Rockridge, near my apartment, for coffee. So when, on our first date, Ben told me he was a competitive triathlete, I just laughed. But when he told me they were both sex therapists, I was genuinely surprised.