Since you live in a geographic area where there are few Jews, it will help to find a rabbi and/or mentor to help you out socially.
Consider hooking up with a mentor in Kansas City or St.
Their children and/or grandchildren frequently do not consider themselves Jews.
The beauty of our 3,000-year faith, rich history and culture often ends within a generation of intermarriage.
I only dated non-Jewish women, mainly because there are few Jews in the middle of Kansas, and because I never knew of my heritage until recently. Shalom, Kenny in Kansas Mazal Tov on discovering your Jewish roots!