This is article #34 to be published on the Get The Guy blog from my brother Stephen.
In the Get The Guy book Matt and I used the term ‘Perceived Value’ which might be a better way to think of Respect in this context. It can be: These are just a few things that will cross a guy’s mind when he thinks about a relationship, and if he doesn’t imagine them happening then he’ll place a girl in the Friends-With-Benefits Zone.
It’s the place where he likes the girl, he’s attracted, but he doesn’t feel enough Connection and Respect (i.e.
Let’s explain both of these traps individually and why different kinds of women fall into them. It’s typically seen as something that afflicts men more commonly, but it happens to women as well.
The Friend Trap is when you like a guy, you both get along like best buddies, except…that’s it. It’s like one endless tease, where you think something could possibly-maybe-just happen one day, but every time you get close to him he pulls away and decides not to. That’s possible, but even incompetent shy guys take the hint eventually and can manage to guide their lips toward yours!
For example, not every guy you have sex with will be your idea of a perfect boyfriend.